Being a Mom – Selected Scriptures

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Pastor Scott L. Harris
Grace Bible Church, NY
May 11, 2008
May 8, 2022 – Revised

Being a Mom
Selected Scriptures


Many years ago I cut out a Miss Manners column on Mothers’ Day that explained why something that once was very simple has become a day of confusion for many in our society. Why? Because many now have to ask, “Who is my mother?” She wrote,

“It’s all very well to talk about honoring Mother today. But, as Miss Manners well knows, there are many people nowadays who can’t figure out who Mother is. Is she Father’s new wife who is younger than the children? What about a cherished former mother-in-law? or the family friend who soothed the children while their parents were preoccupied with their divorce?

Even if Mother is identified, who is supposed to honor her? Just her children, or also the father of those children? Suppose he is no longer married to her? Or suppose he only acquired the already-fathered children through marriage to her?

What about the paternal grandmother of those children – does she honor the mother, or does the mother honor her? Should the biological mother be honoring her children’s adoptive mother, or vice versa?”

To what Miss Manners wrote back in the late 1980’s, can also be added the additional confusion by a society that has promoted and legalized what God declares are abominations before Him. Who is the mom for a child that as two adult lesbian females as parents? Court cases have already been fought between the woman that gave birth to the child and the other woman who has legally adopted the child, and adding to the confusion are the cases in which neither female is the biological mother. A whole lot worse is the child whose biological father now not thinks he is a woman. Is the child supposed to call his father, mom? The rise in emotional and mental dysfunction among children should not be a surprise.

One Mothers Day card tried to tackle this problem of confused families by saying, “Welcome to the family, Mom, from all of us except our mother.”

But the confusion notwithstanding, “Mother” is a word that is loaded with a lot of meaning. The woman addressed by that title may or may not be the one that carried you for nine months, for many adoptive parents or step parents have fulfilled that role. For most of us, “Mother” or “Mom” is a good word that brings to mind a woman who sacrificed herself over and over again for us. She earned our respect and love in a hundred thousand ways, and we do love and respect her for it. For us, the scriptural command to honor our parents is done easily and with great joy.

For others here, they may have mixed or even negative emotions about “mom.” It may be very difficult for them to honor their parents even though that is the command given to all regardless of how well the parents fulfilled their roles (Ephesians 6:2). Many have had non-Christian parents or had parents that were not living for the Lord, and therefore incapable of raising them properly in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). Even worse are those parents that abused their children either physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually or a combination of those ways. As our society continues its downward spiral in rejection of Christian morality, it can be expected that an increasing portion of the population will have mixed emotions toward or even a very negative view of their parents.

Mothering has always been a difficult job. It requires hard work and long hours without pay, and too often, moms receive little or no respect from children who are still wrapped up in their own selfish little world. The rewards can seem few and far between. In light of that it is no wonder that many parents say they would not have children if they had to do it over again. What such parents fail to recognize is that in saying that they are also admitting both the poor job they did in parenting and their own selfishness. We have a society that has moved very far from a Biblical worldview.

There are two major reasons children can turn out to be more of a curse rather than a blessing. First, many people become parents without any sense of God’s hand being in it. All they were out to do was have a good time. They were not thinking about producing children. The unexpected child is therefore seen as an interference with their life style with abortion considered to be an easy solution to a pregnancy at the “wrong time.” This has become such a common idea in our society that being pro-abortion is considered a political advantage in many districts and even nationally. What is to be said about a major presidential candidate who disparages his daughters that they might get pregnant while single and so he wants abortion to be available as a solution to the problems of an unwed mother? If the child is allowed to live, selfish parents regret it because that child hindered them from doing what they wanted. Selfishness is the first reason many parents find their children to be more of a curse than blessing.

The second reason many parents consider their children to be problems instead of blessings is that the vast majority of parents today, including many self professing “Christian” ones, have turned their backs on the Scriptural principles of how to raise their children. The end result is children who are brats who rebel in their teen years. Children who are like that are curses. “A foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him” (Proverbs 17:25).

There are several factors that continue to encourage this sinful and selfish mindset among parents. These factors make it more difficult for even the Christian mother who does understand the worth and importance of a child and sacrificially strives to raise that child correctly. First, society has changed its view about a women’s role. The “liberated” woman of today is expected to pursue a career with the more “liberated” ones rising up the corporate ladder or tackling jobs traditionally done by men. The lack of time with her children is justified by giving them “quality time” though such “quality time” is neither defined nor is it explained how to do it when you come home physically and mentally tired from a long day at work. The myth is exposed when the children know the baby-sitter better than their mother. The woman who stays home with her kids is seen as “oppressed” by male society which will not let her become a “fulfilled” woman. Being a “mom” at home is no longer respected by society. You are expected to have some other job that is useful to society and self fulfilling based on the premise that homemaking and raising your own children is not useful to society or self-fulfilling.

Second is the increasingly anti-parental nature of society. An extreme part of society does not like children. In fact, I can only conclude that the pro-abortion advocates hate children. Their response to the leaked draft of a U.S. Supreme Court decision that may overturn Roe vs. Wade has been so far over the top that they are threatening violent protests even at the homes of Supreme Court Justices, advocating a boycott of Mother’s Day and threatening disruption of Mother’s Day church services. They love death, not life, and now they are protesting those that want to or have brought a baby into this world. Added to this is the support a lot of mainstream media and pro-abortion politicians are giving to these protests and refusal to condemn the violence.

Not as extreme but in the end just as insidious are those whose philosophies and methods of raising children are contrary to the word of God, some of which antagonize the parent/child relationship. For example, contrary to Scriptures is the idea that corporal punishment (spanking) is child abuse and those that do it should have government social workers come and take those kids away. Proverbs 13:24 puts it directly saying, “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” What happens to those kids who are taken away? They end up in foster homes where the children are often taught value systems opposite of the parents, and where the incidence of true child abuse – physical, sexual and emotional – increases dramatically. That is cruel to both the child and the parent. There are some great foster parents, but there are also a lot that do it simply because the government pays them to do it and not because they care about the children. The foster care system greatly needs Christians who will get involved because they see a great opportunity to minister to hurting children and truly love them.

Third, many school systems even in conservative communities have become antagonistic to the parent/child relationship. That has been dramatically exposed since parents became much more aware of what was being taught – or the lack of teaching – when the schools closed and went to remote learning. The “values clarification” and sex education materials of 20-30 years ago seem nearly Victorian compared to the abominations now being espoused. When there were racial disturbances on school campuses in the 1970’s, the racism was denounced by all and efforts were made to mitigate the problems and their sources. Blatant racism is now proudly hailed in society and many schools indoctrinate the children to view everyone through an intersectional racial lens. This is Martin Luther King’s dream of people being evaluated on the content of their character instead of their skin tone being turned on its head. The new racism of Social Justice and Critical Race Theory is considered to be good as long as it is against those with little melanin in their skin and those that hold to Christian ethics even if they are melanin blessed with darker skin. Then there is the pushing of homosexuality and transgenderism in school and children being groomed for sexual confusion and exploitation. Parents were shocked and thankfully many momma (and pappa) bears have risen up to oppose what has been happening by speaking up at school board meetings and running for positions to replace those who are allowing the children to be so endangered. (Sarah Hanganu started “Moms of Liberty” & Chris Hanganu is running for his school board, and you can meet candidates for our local school board tomorrow night here at 7 pm).

These factors encourage the immoral and selfish who view children as something they don’t want, they don’t like or they regret having while at the same time making it more difficult for parents who want, like and are thankful for their children to raise them properly. A very vocal portion of society opposes Christian beliefs and morality and seeks to turn your children against you and your values.

However, God makes it clear in His word that children should be a blessing, not a curse. Psalm 127:3 tells us, “Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; The fruit of the womb is a reward,” and then adds in verse 5, “How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.” Psalm 128:3-4 describes the man who has a wife that is “like a fruitful vine” and has “children like olive plants around [his] table” as being blessed. This does not mean that being a godly parent is easy work, especially in light of what I have just mentioned is occurring in our society, but God has given us the principles we need to raise our children correctly so that being a godly mom is a blessing


First, I want to point out that as a man, I cannot know what a marvelous blessing it is to be a mom. I admit that I personally do not see what the great joy is in being sick for three or more months in early pregnancy, having to quit eating a lot of your favorite foods (chocolate, pizza, spices, etc), having something inside you that kicks you in the bladder and rams its head into your ribs, having to sleep with 5 or 6 pillows and still being uncomfortable, and then going through the labor and delivery when all the muscles in your abdomen want to do things and go places you don’t and being in the state of what Scripture refers to as “travail.” As a man, I cannot say if that is a blessing or not, but Diane said it was, so I’ll take her word for it. I am told that part of the blessing of pregnancy is the love that develops for that child even while marveling at the life growing in your womb.

I do have to mention that Jesus himself said a mother has joy in the birth of a child. “Whenever a woman is in travail she has sorrow, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she remembers the anguish no more, for joy that a child has been born into the world” (John 16:21). Anyone that has seen a birth knows the joy the mom has when she sees her baby for the first time. The first blessing is the joy of a new life, but let me quickly add that a similar joy is seen on the face of adoptive parents when that child is given to them. We need to remember that children, regardless if they come to us through pregnancy or adoption, are a gift of the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and there is great joy in receiving that gift.

There is also the blessing of the love that you give to those children and seeing them grow and mature. In 1 Thessalonians 2:8, Paul describes himself in terminology as if he was their mother and his care and concern for them was the same. He then says, “having thus a fond affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us.” Because of the love that Paul had for the Thessalonians, he was pleased to impart to them his own life. This is also true for the godly mother, who without complaint sacrifices of herself and gives of herself to her children because of her love for them. She is pleased to do so. A few verses later Paul adds his thanksgiving to God for the spiritual growth of the Thessalonians. In the same way a mother rejoices and thanks God for the growth of her children. Proverbs 23:24-25 says, “The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice: and he who begets a wise child will be glad in him. Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you.”

There is of course the common blessing of seeing those children grow physically, take their first steps, say their first words, ride a bike, their first date, seeing them get married and having children of their own. But I think for the Christian there is the additional blessing of knowing that God is using you in a special way in the life of that child. Leading and guiding the child to a knowledge of God. Being able to mold and shape your child to become responsible and mature. What can be a greater blessing than knowing that you are being used by God to shape another human being for all of eternity? That is a significant job. There is no job more important than affecting others for Christ.

There are marvelous blessings in being a mom. *The joy in the birth of a child, the gift of the Lord. *The joy in loving those children and giving of yourself to them. *The great blessing in being used by God as the most significant influence that child’s life as you mold him or her into a responsible, mature and godly individual.

Even from the negative point of view of when your children cause you headaches that even Excedrin will not relieve, you have great cause for rejoicing. God is using your children to make you into a more mature Christian! This point is made very clear in both Romans 5:2-8 and James 1:2-4. “Consider it all joy my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” Even those difficult times accomplish spiritual growth in both us and in our children. Would you be as godly as you are without the challenges you have faced in raising your children?


Motherhood is also filled with responsibilities that seem overwhelming. Most of the commands in Scripture regarding the rearing of the children are directed to the father, but that does not in any way exclude the mother from those same responsibilities. Ephesians 6:4 says, “fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Just because the verse says “fathers” instead of “mothers” does not mean that moms are exempt from the command. She likewise has a responsibility to refrain from provoking the children to anger and to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

What is meant by nurture? Training, instruction, chastening, discipline. It is teaching the child to live by the principles and precepts of the Lord.

What is meant by admonition? Exhortation, warning. Making sure they are corrected and learn about the consequences of disobedience to the Lord. And it should be noted that the first command to children is for them to obey and to honor the parents.

This responsibility of the mother is also mentioned in Deuteronomy 6:4-7. “Hear O Israel, the Lord our God is one Lord and thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all they heart, with all they soul, and with all thy might, and these words, which I am commanding you today shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”

The command is for both parents, though the father has the major responsibility for setting the direction and making sure it is done. It is a command that mom is also responsible to carry out. Various Proverbs also make it plain that the mother also has a major role to play in the rearing of the children. Proverbs 1:8, “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” Proverbs 6:20, “My son, observe the commandment of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother.”

In some ways the mother bears even more of the practical responsibility in rearing the children since the early years even for boys is spend with her. Dad may be the one that God has specifically charged with the responsibility to make sure the children are raised properly, but it seems that mom suffers the most if the child does not turn out well. Proverbs 10:1 says, “A wise son make a father glad, But a foolish son is a grief to his mother.” Proverbs 29:15 says, “The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.” This is sort of like, if the son does well, dad says, “That’s my boy.” However, if the son messes up, mom is the one that has the greater grief. Of course there is great joy for both when a child matures properly as mentioned earlier in quoting Proverbs 23:24-25.

One of the things that continues to concern me is parents learning to take full responsibility for the fact that God has put those precious children into their care. Parents need to understand that they are responsible for how they raise their children, and accepting that responsibility will greatly affect the way the children mature. This does not in anyway remove the child’s individual responsibility before God to follow Him, but it is to say that God will also hold the parents responsible for how well they have followed His commands in raising the children. No one has had perfect parents, and no one here has been or will be perfect parents. God wants you to look to Him for how to raise your children. God wants you to be dependent on Him in raising godly children. Ignorance is no excuse. If the child is behaving in less than a godly manner, it is the responsibility of the parents to train that child to act in a godly manner. Failure will rest on the parents for they will bear the grief and shame of it. God wants us to seek His forgiveness and correction when we fail and in that way not only become more godly ourselves, but become the model to others. Your children learn how to humbly walk in righteousness with God by your example. Wise parents look to God and seek the help of the rest of the body of Christ to do the job of parenting properly.

Let me stress a point before we discuss some basic principles of how God wants mothers to accomplish their job. While parents will be held responsible for the job they do as parents, that child can never, and I repeat never, use the way the parents have raised him or her as an excuse for their own sinful behavior. According to 2 Peter 1:3, God has already given to us “everything pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence.” The things that have happened to us in the past may give us great insight into why we tend to act certain ways in the present, but they never excuse it. Regardless of how bad your past may be, what bad things may have happened to you, or how horrible the example of your parents, those things cannot excuse your own sinful behavior. Scripture is clear that God always provides a way to either escape or endure through any temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13).


God has given mothers great blessings in children and great responsibilities, but God has not left you to your own devices and musings to stumble and fail. He has given you His word, the Bible, to guide you and direct you on how the task can be accomplished of rearing children who will rise up and call you blessed. Many women rely on maternal instinct, which may or may not be helpful, but God has given Maternal Principles in His word that are far superior. I want to quickly pull out some of these principles from Proverbs 31 because verse 28 says that her children will rise up and call her blessed, and that is a sign of mother who has done it right.

A. She is a good wife.

Proverbs 31:10-12, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.” The starting point of being a good mother, is being a good wife. She has earned her husband’s complete trust. She does him good. You will never be a better mother than you are a wife.

In Proverbs 31:13-14 & 17-19 we find that she is industrious. She is willing to shop for bargains and work to make things herself and the family. “She looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar.” Verses 17-19 add, “She girds her arms with strength, and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle.”

She uses some of the extra fruits of her labor to gain extra income for the family. Proverbs 31: 24 states, “She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen.” And then she is also innovative of increasing the return on her earnings by investment as explained in Proverbs 31:16, “She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard.”

It is no wonder the husband trusts her. He knows that she is a diligent and hard worker who is doing him good, and he will not lack gain from her. In fact, Proverbs 31:23 could indicate that it is because she is so supportive of him that he was able to become a leader in the community, “Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.”

B. She watches over her household.

Proverbs 31:27, “She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.” This is a woman who cares about her household and she is busy making sure that everyone is provided for and taken care of.

Proverbs 31:15: “She rises also while it is still night, And gives food to her household, And portions to her maidens.” One of her first chores is making sure the family is fed, so she rises early to accomplish the task. In fact, Proverbs 31:14 points out that she not only feeds her family, but goes to great lengths to provide quality and variety for her family at her own personal expense. Remember that they either walked or rode a donkey in those days so it would be physically demanding for her to be described as, “. . . like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar.”

She also makes sure the family is well clothed. Proverbs 31:21-22, “She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.” The family is well clothed because she is a diligent worker, wise in stretching the family income and she adds to it.

C. She is a wise in teaching.

Proverbs 31:26, “She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” She is wise in what she says and her example also teaches her children proper behavior. She can do this because, “Strength and dignity are her clothing. And she smiles at the future” (Proverbs 31:25). Her compassion and help to others is also part of her example of being a wise teacher. “She extends her hand to the poor; And she stretches out her hands to the needy” (Proverbs 31:20). Her words and the example of her life teaches her children how to live life properly in doing what is right and good.

D. She fears the Lord.

Most importantly, and the reason for all the other things, is that this woman fears the Lord. Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” And indeed this woman is praised by her children who call her blessed (Proverbs 31:28) and by her husband who says of her (Proverbs 31:29), “Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.”

Being a mom is quite a job. It has many Marvelous Blessings, and it also has some Overwhelming Responsibilities, but God has given you everything needed to fulfill those responsibilities and reap the blessings to their fullest. The Proverbs 31 woman is the supreme practical example of a godly mother. Is that what you desire to be? Is that what you what your wife or your own mom to be? You can help her by encouraging her to follow after the Lord.

The starting point is a proper fear of the Lord and a personal relationship with Him. Without that the job of being a godly & successful mother is impossible. But with the Lord and a foundational desire to serve Him you can put into practice all these principles. The two foundational commandments of all of Scripture are to: 1) Love the Lord your God with all your heart, strength and mind, and 2) To love your neighbor as yourself. Put this into practice in your family and love them by being the best mom you can possibly be which is accomplished by:

1) Put the Lord first and develop your relationship with Him.

2) Be a good wife.

3) Watch over your household.

4) Be a wise teacher and a godly example to your children.

Sermon Notes – 5/8/2022 A.M.
Being a Mom – Selected Scriptures


Who is my mother?

Mother/Mom is a word for the woman that ____________ herself over and over again for you

Mother/Mom brings ________ emotions for some because that person ____________them in some way

Mothering is a _________ job

Among those whose children are more of a curse than a blessing:

Many people do not have any sense of ________ ________ in them becoming parents

Many parents view their children as _____________ instead of ____________

Factors contributing making it more difficult to raise children properly in our society

  1. Much of society does not value a ___________ role. It values _________ and / or self-fulfillment
  2. Increasing anti-parental nature of society

An increasing fraction that does not like children

Philosophies & methods of child-rearing that are ___________ to the Scriptures

  1. School systems which __________ & contradict Biblical ethics

The new racism: _____________________________________________________

Sexual perversions: _____________________________________________________

Those who don’t want, like or regret having children make it more difficult for those that do want them

Children are a ____________, not a curse – Psalm 127:3-5; Psalm 128:3-4

Marvelous Blessing

A ________that develops for the child even while that life is ____________in your womb

The joy of a child being __________ into the world – John 16:21

The love that you give as your children _________and mature – 1 Thessalonians 2:8

Being used by the ___________ in a special way in the life of that child

God uses your children to make _______more mature & draw closer to the Lord

Overwhelming Responsibilities

Children are to be raised without provoking them to ________, and in the nurture & admonition of the Lord

____________= Training, instruction, chastening, discipline

____________= Exhortation, warning

Deut. 6:4-7. To love the _________and teach your children about Him in ____________________.

Prov. 10:1. A wise child brings __________, but a foolish child brings _________and shame on the mother

Parents are _____________ before God in how they raise their children

God wants us to look to _________ in how to raise our children & be dependent upon ________

We seek God’s ____________for failure and in doing so give a proper __________of walking with Him

Children (of any age) cannot use their parent’s failures as an __________ for their own sin

Maternal Principles

A. She is a Good Wife – Proverbs 31:10-12

You will never be a better mother than you are a __________

She is ___________, and increases the ________of the family – Proverbs 31: 10-19, 23,24

B. She watches over her household – Proverbs 31:14-15, 27

She is ________, not slothful. Her family is well cared for, and her work _________clothes them

C. She is a wise in teaching. – Proverbs 31:20, 25-26

She teaches by what she says and by her _________. She is _____________

D. She fears the Lord – Proverbs 31:28-31

Her children praise her and call her _________, her husband says she _________ them all

The Proverbs 31 woman is the supreme ____________example of a godly mother


Parents, you are responsible to apply God’s Word to your children’s lives. Here is some help. Young Children – draw a picture about something you hear during the sermon. Explain your picture(s) to your parents at lunch. Older Children Do one or more of the following: 1) Write down all the verses mentioned in the sermon and look them up later. 2) Count how many times the word “mother” or “mom” is used in the sermon. Discuss with your parents how your mom is encouraging you to be godly.


Questions to consider in discussing the sermon with others. Who should celebrate who on Mother’s day? Explain? Why is it hard for some people in our society to define who exactly is their “mom”? What does the word “mother” or “mom” mean to you? Explain. What good things come to mind when you think about your mom? Why do some people have such negative memories about their mom? What qualities in a mom make the difference between good and bad memories? What does it reveal about a parent if they say they would not have children if they had to do it over again? What are of the reasons some parents find their children to be a curse instead of a blessing? What is the end result of not following Biblical principles in raising children? How does society generally view the role of a mother? What does society expect of women? How would you define the successful woman? How would society define her? What examples have you seen of our society’s general rejection of Biblical principles in raising children? What examples have you seen of our school systems teaching ideas that are contrary to the parent’s beliefs? How do you help your children resist the ideas given to them in school/media? What blessing is their to a mom during pregnancy? What is the blessing of having a new baby whether by birth or adoption? What are the blessings in seeing your children grow and mature? What is the blessing of God using you in the life of your children? How does God use your children in improving your spiritual life? How do parents provoke their children to anger? How can that be avoided? What does Ephesians 6:4 mean by “nurture” and “admonition.” What are some practical ways those two commands can be carried out? Why is it so important that a mother love God with all her heart, soul and might? When and where should a mother teach her children about God and how to love God? What are the consequences to raising a child that becomes a fool? Who is responsible? Explain. Can other people be blamed for your sin? Read through Proverbs 31:10-31 and list out the characteristics the described that are important in being a good & godly mother?


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